Marriage counseling will not work when the two members of the couple have different agendas. For example, if one partner is more committed to doing the necessary work than the other, then counseling will not work. If either partner isn't completely honest, it's not going to work either. Another common problem is the frequency of sessions.
If you go to see a therapist once a month, literally spend an hour, out of the 730 hours focused on your relationship, think about that ratio. It's really not enough time or energy to create change. If you have any questions for me, or if you are interested in working on your relationship, you can schedule a 15-minute phone consultation here. If the evasive spouse is not willing to open up and express some thoughts and emotions with his partner, psychotherapist Tina B.
Tessina confirmed that the relationship will not work, that is, of course, unless that spouse makes the necessary changes. Many couples have tried marriage therapy with little or no change in its dynamics. They may practice communication skills in therapy, but they still feel a big gap between them. They still lack the emotional connection they crave.